7 People Who Cheated On Their Partners Reveal How It Made Them Feel

Getting cheated on is possibly the worst thing to happen in a relationship. It hurts because you feel like whatever effort you made towards the relationship was pointless. If you’ve ever been cheated on, you already know the kind of tough emotions that go behind moving on from the incident.

However, what about the people who cheat? Why do they do it? How does it feel to know you’ve cheated on someone who loves you with all their heart?

7 People on Reddit admitted to cheating on their partners and talked about how it made them feel. The answers may just have a lot of lessons for you:

1. “He cheated on me first, I couldn’t get over it and I wanted him to feel the same way. So I revenge cheated. I can’t entirely say I regret it or that I’m proud of it. It’s something that was wrong to do, that ultimately didn’t earn me any kid of closure or satisfaction.

He also didn’t seem to care much about it.”

 

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2. “I was not the most caring or appreciative partner. I went out with friends. A very sexually aggressive girl came onto me. I went home with her. Felt awful afterwards. Confessed to everything even though I could have avoided being caught. Tried to salvage the relationship but it just didn’t work. Considering how terrible it made me feel and how much pain I caused someone else, I don’t think I’d do it again.”

 

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3. “I was falling out of love with her and in love with someone else. Luckily I did not go too far until I realized I was that asshole and broke it off with my ex before I continued. Still in a relationship with the girl I cheated on my ex with after 6 and a half years so I know I made the right decision to move on, but the feeling of cheating on someone is awful and I wouldn’t ever do it again.”

 

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4. “After the age of 25, I didn’t cheat on boyfriends. When I was in college, I did because I didn’t take relationships as seriously then. I didn’t really even understand myself, either, to be honest. After 25, though, I started taking my life/relationships more seriously, and never saw the point in cheating.”

 

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5. “I was immature and unhappy with the relationship, but was too scared to say it to her face. It was long distance and there was something I cared for more in the town I lived in. But I was cowardly and didn’t want to tell my girlfriend at the time the truth. I ended up kissing the other girl between the shelves of our local library. She knew I was in a relationship and how much it was tearing me apart, but didn’t stop me at the time and it kind of happened.

Several months later my girlfriend and I broke up after I told her what I did.”

 

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6. “After a few years of marriage it became clear that she didn’t respect or appreciate me. I had low self esteem. Traveled a lot for work. Felt like I deserved it somehow and it was ok because I treated her well and provided a good life. It felt great to be wanted by other women. The guilt ate me up inside for years. We eventually divorced. Best decision ever, but it still makes me feel like a shitty person for being that way. She never found out as far as I know. Would never cheat again. Sounds dumb but you’re also cheating yourself when you do this.”

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7. “I was in a straight relationship and was hopelessly confused about my sexuality. A cute guy in gym class was hitting on me super hard. One day he comes over to play video games. One thing leads to another. Right after I kick him out and call up my girlfriend and tell her what happened. Our relationship was on the decline for three months until we broke up. We’re friends now. Turns out I’m bi.”

 

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